boundaries post (long, you only have to read if you want to flirt)
if i don't follow you, please don't flirt. i follow back, so follow me first and let's talk a bit before going right into flirting. i like to know who i'm talking to.
nonsexual flirting in general is ok.
nonromantic affection is super okay and always welcome! i tend to be generous with it myself, and if that ever makes you uncomfortable please tell me.
this goes for generally too, please always tell me if i am ever making you uncomfortable. even if it's a public post not directed at you. i want to make sure to use cws and such appropriately so that everyone feels respected.
selfies: boosts are always ok! nonsexual flirting on selfies is always ok. please don't be lewd at my selfies.
being lewd at me in threads that are for being lewd at each other is ok. i wouldn't join the thread if i didn't want that.
i'm not opposed to kinks but there are a lot that squick me out so please don't assume i'm ok with any specific kink until i indicate otherwise. this will change day to day so please reset expectations each time.
DMs: please don't lewd or flirt in dms. i have a discord, you can ask for it. i also use many other messengers if discord isn't your thing.
i don't care what you post on your own profile, as long as it's not like, untagged porn or something. being horny on main? great! if it bothers me i can just use mute. it's not a factor in deciding whether we can be mutuals.
please don't flirt or be lewd ever if our age difference is such that we wouldn't date irl. i'm 30. i'm not going to set a hard limit on this because maturity looks different for everyone but use your judgement for your comfort level and then i will tell you if my comfort level is crossed. over 18 only please, obviously.
if i have told you or we have established patterns otherwise in another medium like discord or irl, you can safely assume that some of these rules may not apply to you. if you're not sure, ask! i will always be honest and it will never offend me.
each of our aspects has very different comfort levels! please don't assume these boundaries apply to any of our other aspects.
we have a lewd alt but i never use it because i don't like putting myself out there. if you really wanna be lewd at me you can dm to get that account and if i feel comfortable i'll let you follow. it's run by a different aspect so boundaries are very different there.
all flirting and lewding is just for fun online. please don't assume it means anything if we meet up irl unless i tell you otherwise.
i know this is a lot and on any other social media platform i wouldn't bother posting this because i know no one would read it. but y'all will and that's why y'all are so awesome. thank you for making this a wonderful place to be. 💜
All the patches applied to starflower.space are now split out for convenience and available to browse here: https://github.com/sable-starflower/starflower.space/pulls
Please let me know if you end up using any of these, it would make me really happy
First art I’ve finished in months
reminder that you don't have to contort your pain into irony or satire to in order to talk about it. people are complicated and multi-faceted; we all know that no one's happy all the time. laying your trauma, pain, or confusion down isn't "bringing others down with you". you're not burdening anyone when you unburden yourself.
So many of our interpersonal anxieties come from a lack of communication and a fear of asking the questions we might not like the answers to.
I know I put this off all the time, and every time I resolve it I vow to do better in the future. Inevitably though, those questions are tough to ask because they are dangerous, and yet what I find is that even the most dangerous answers turn out to be safer than you think.